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Let’s talk about loneliness

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The current coronavirus pandemic and resulting lockdown has presented us all with challenges, and for many of us it’s brought the challenge of loneliness into sharp focus.

Working from home and only being allowed to leave for essential travel and shopping has increased these feelings of loneliness. And with loneliness having a detrimental effect on our mental health, it’s really important we look after ourselves and each other.

Creating an awareness of the challenges we face is exactly what Loneliness Awareness Week is designed to do. Hosted by charity the Marmalade Trust, Loneliness Awareness Week takes place this week, 15-19 June. This year’s campaign aims to “empower everyone to understand loneliness one conversation at a time.”

What can we do?
Communication is key, so the Marmalade Trust recommend the following three ways to get involved:

  • Social media
    Share a post about loneliness, your own experiences or even some tips to help others. If you’re not sure what to say but you want to show your support, you can download and share one of the Marmalade Trust’s social media graphics and include the hashtag #LetsTalkLoneliness.
  • Build your understanding
    Check out the Marmalade Trust’s Loneliness Awareness Week website to develop your understanding of loneliness and learn how you can help others feel more connected. They have loads of ideas for reaching out to others at home, at work and in the community – from hosting weekly catch-ups and sending letters, to creating Whatsapp groups and joining clubs.
  • Pledge
    You can sign the Marmalade Trust’s loneliness pledge here. They’re also happy for you to share their graphics on your Facebook or Instagram stories to help keep the conversation going. And don’t forget to tag friends who’ve helped you when you’ve felt lonely.

The more people we can reach, the more people can join the conversation!

It’s good to talk
Although lockdown might not have been a positive experience in itself, hopefully we can take positives from it. Maybe we’re all now more aware of loneliness and what we can do to combat it? We’re not saying you should try to strike up a conversation with every stranger you meet, but you can make sure you speak to your friends and family.

If you feel loneliness is starting to affect your mental health and wellbeing make an appointment to see your GP to make sure you’re getting the right support.

5 ways to boost your mood during lockdown

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I think it’s fair to say that life’s a bit of a rollercoaster for many of us at the moment. Full of ups and downs and the accompanying highs and lows in our mood that come with navigating our way through the uncertainty of a global pandemic.

Many of us are spending most of our time at home now, without the usual social interactions that come with our normal workplace (and even if we can go to work, it’s with huge restrictions and socially distanced), or going about our daily routines of school drop-offs, shopping and visits to the gym / coffee shop / pub / parks etc. And with all of this isolation and separation can come a knock to our mood.

So here are a few simple ideas to help lift your mood if you’re feeling a little low:

  • Turn up those tunes! Music is a well-known mood-booster, so find a favourite upbeat song to listen to, crank up the volume and just take some time to let those feel-good vibes nourish your soul! Music has always been a main go-to for me to lift my spirits and it really does work!
  • Have a laugh – there’s a lot of research to back this one up and apparently, laughter really is the best medicine for when we’re feeling low. Laughter triggers the release of endorphins, which are the body’s natural feel-good chemicals and promote an overall sense of wellbeing. So why not put on your favourite comedy show and let those endorphins work their magic.
  • Get moving! A favourite for me and my family is to get dancing! If I can see we need a little pick-me-up, I’ll turn the radio on and we’ll just dance around the kitchen together – it works wonders! Another idea is to find a short video online, I’ve found some great dance HIIT and Zumba workouts on YouTube that I can easily fit in when I have 20 minutes to myself. Without doubt I come away feeling so much better than when I started.
  • It’s good to talk – communication is so important in getting through these strange times and a phone call / video call with your best mate or a loved one can really help you to feel connected. If you need to, vent your frustrations and get them off your chest, or talk through how you’re feeling and get some support from family and friends – we really are all in this together!
  • Look at old photos – whether that’s looking through photos on your phone or laptop, or flicking through an old photo album from years ago that’s gathering dust in the back of a cupboard, take a few minutes out to look back at happy times you’ve had. Focus on those good times and happy memories and feel gratitude for those times for a dose of feel-good vibes.

Let us know if you’ve got any other mood-boosting ideas to share with us! Look after yourselves.

5 ways to look after you mental health while at home

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Our daily lives are almost unrecognisable in comparison with a couple of months ago. If you’re lucky enough to be working, it’s likely you’re  now working from home and  finding new ways to do your job, as well as interact with colleagues and loved ones. Spending most of your time indoors can bring its own challenges though, so we’ve put together our top five tips to help you look after your mental health.

Keep active
Exercising can have great benefits for your mental health because the release of endorphins during physical activity can help lift your mood. The latest Government guidance says we can go outside to exercise, so you can use this opportunity to stretch your legs and breathe in some fresh air. Don’t feel the pressure to run, cycle or do anything too strenuous if you don’t feel up to it though – do what’s right for you. The NHS recommends 150 minutes exercise per week, which can be done by walking. But if you’re looking for some inspiration for home workouts, we’ve got a whole blog about them here. Also make sure you get up from where you’re working and move around regularly – at least once an hour!

Communication is key
Working from home can leave you feeling quite isolated, so it’s important to stay connected with other people. Regular chats and reassurance from others can help calm feelings of anxiety, so use video calls where possible. Apps like Skype, Zoom, FaceTime and WhatsApp all allow you to see your colleagues and friends face to face. And it might sound obvious, but just because you can’t see your colleagues and loved ones, doesn’t mean they’re not there.

Create a good working environment
It can be hard to replicate your office set-up at home, but our top tip is to try to create a space where you want to work. Natural light and fresh air, as well as a good desk chair and correctly set-up screen will help you feel more comfortable. Try to personalise your space with photos and desk plants. Bringing nature into your life can benefit your mental wellbeing by improving your mood, reducing feelings of stress or anger, and help you feel more relaxed. And if you can, try to have separate work and living spaces – this will help you distinguish between the two in your mind so you can ‘leave’ the office at the end of the day.

Keep your mind occupied with the right stuff
Find ways to relax, be creative and keep your mind stimulated with positive things. Whether it’s crafting, trying new recipes, writing or just putting some music on to sing and dance to, research has shown these activities can help boost your mental health. Arrange calls, catch-ups, and quizzes with your friends and family. Also, if the news worries you – try to limit how much you watch and read, and only from sources you trust.

Eat well and stay hydrated!
You might find your appetite changes slightly as your routine changes, but it’s still really important to eat regularly and stay hydrated. As well as the physical health benefits of a healthy diet, mental health charity Mind tell us eating healthily can improve your mood, give you more energy, and help you think more clearly. Try to eat healthy, well-balanced meals and plan in healthy snacks throughout the day that’ll stop you reaching for the biscuit tin. The same goes for staying hydrated – if you don’t drink enough fluid, you might find it difficult to concentrate or think clearly.

There’s lots of help and support available, so make the most of it! As well as the care network of your family, friends, and colleagues there are loads of free resources out there to help. Most companies have Employee Assistance Programmes to support their employees and there are also loads of great apps to help with mindfulness, meditation and relaxation techniques.

And finally, remember – we’re in lockdown. Just getting through this is an achievement in itself. So give yourself some well-deserved credit. Find what works for you and do that. Take care and stay safe.

Your mind matters – free resources to help look after your mental health

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Even for the bravest among us, the world feels pretty scary at the moment. There are so many things we have no control over, and for an anxious person it’s something I’m finding very hard to deal with right now. I know I’m not alone; even friends who haven’t previously struggled with anxiety have commented on how difficult they are finding these uncertain times.

When intrusive thoughts become too much, I rely on meditation and the act of mindfulness, which I mostly access through a couple of really good apps. Calm and Headspace, two well-known meditation and mindfulness apps usually charge for some of their services, but have decided to offer free sessions to help anyone struggling during the Coronavirus pandemic.

Headspace

Headspace are currently offering three free meditation sessions:

Relieving Stress

Panicking

Walking at home

The relieving stress and panicking sessions follow a traditional meditation format and are designed to help you when you’re feeling overwhelmed.

Walking at home is a little different – it’s a 10 minute mediation that encourages you to get active by completing a walking meditation inside your home. I found this session perfect when I started to feel too cooped-up in the house.

To try out any of the meditations visit: https://www.headspace.com/covid-19.

Calm

Calm has something for everyone. If you’re having trouble sleeping, or getting back to sleep you could try a sleep story or a guided meditation to help you drift off. Maybe you’re struggling to focus while working from home. Calm has a range of relaxing soundscapes available for free and also includes a link to their YouTube channel if you want to listen to longer soundscapes.

If you’ve got children who are feeling worried or anxious at the moment, Calm also provides meditations and sleep stories to help children whatever their age:

Age 3-4: Blowing candles

Age 7-10: Meditation for falling asleep

Age 7-13: That safe happy place

Age 11-17: Falling asleep meditation

To see the full range of resources available visit: https://www.calm.com/blog/take-a-deep-breath.

Every Mind Matters

Every Mind Matters was launched by Public Health England in conjunction with the NHS and the charity Heads Up in light of the Coronavirus pandemic and the impact on people’s mental health. It’s a website designed to give you the tools you need to deal with stress, anxiety and keeping physically as well as mentally healthy in this challenging time.

You start your journey by answering five simple questions about how you’re currently feeling. This generates your own personal mind plan which includes five steps to help with your wellbeing.

If you’re struggling with lack of sleep, anxiety, low mood or stress the Every Mind Matters website has dedicated sections offering different resources to help manage how you’re feeling. 

Exercise the mind

During these unprecedented times, keeping a healthy mind is more important than ever before. Calm, Headspace and Every Mind Matters are paving the way to reach everyone who needs support with their mental health.

If you need urgent support, Samaritans can support you 24/7. Get in touch with them on 116 123 or visit their website.

It’s me time

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Life is busy. Whether it’s juggling a job and family or just trying to fit in some sort of social life around everything else you have on – things can get hectic.

And at this time of year when many of us have set ourselves resolutions along with a whole host of other goals and ambitions to strive for, it can sometimes feel like any time we’re not doing something is time wasted.

But this 100 miles-per-hour lifestyle could actually be detrimental to achieving those targets we set ourselves. Research suggests doing too much and not taking time for yourself can lead to burnout and being less productive than you’d like.

Why should I take some time for myself?
A number of experts recommend slowing down and setting aside some quiet time on your own. It can help you switch off and even improve your social skills, as you’re less likely to be tired, strained or stretched.

Taking some time for yourself can also help you reset and focus on what you want. Amy Morin, author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, believes time spent alone can improve your concentration, productivity, as well as sparking creativity. And studies have shown the ability to spend time in your own company is linked to increased happiness and improved stress management.

So what can I do?
The idea of putting some time aside purely for yourself can seem daunting and maybe even a bit selfish. But self-care really isn’t something to feel guilty about!

There are loads of things you can do to take some time for yourself, but what’s most important is that it’s something you feel happy doing in an environment you’re comfortable in. Some of our favourite activities to help switch off include:

  • reading
  • practicing mindfulness
  • going for a walk
  • yoga
  • self-care and pampering yourself

So next time you have a spare few minutes, why not use them to focus on you. It might just help you in more ways than you think.

Using nature to nurture wellbeing

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Having recently moved to a big city, I’ve been really aware of the lack of green space compared to where I used to live. It’s the same in many cities across the UK, as horizons are dominated by skyscrapers and offices, while parks and wildlife are scarce in comparison.

I’ve always been quite active and enjoyed being outdoors, but I didn’t realise the direct impact a lack of green space or nature can have on your mental health. German research, quoted in the UK press, said people who live in the countryside are happier, while an American study found those living in urban areas are 21% more likely to have anxiety.

There could be for a number of reasons for this. The pace of life is likely to be faster in a city and there’s generally more pollution too. And if you’re anything like me, the thought of exercising – which is heavily linked to wellbeing – outside in the city isn’t as appealing as the thought of doing the same in the countryside. Running along a busy main road just doesn’t seem as enjoyable as going for a forest walk.

So what role can nature play and how can we get a bit more of it in our lives?

How can nature help?
The mental health charity Mind says spending time in green space or bringing nature into your everyday life can benefit both your mental and physical wellbeing. Doing things like growing food or flowers, exercising outdoors, or being around animals can have lots of positive effects, helping you feel more relaxed and improving your mood.

And a report by Natural England published on the Government website shows taking part in nature-based activities helps people who are suffering from mental health issues by reducing levels of anxiety, stress, and depression.

What can we do?
You don’t have to escape to the country for a long weekend to feel the benefits of nature. A walk at lunchtime in your local park or even creating a space to grow vegetables or herbs can help.

So whether it’s a bit of gardening, putting out bird feeders, or even just reading or eating outdoors, bringing a little bit of nature into your life can have a great effect on your mental wellbeing.

If you’re not sure where to start there are loads of local community groups who are happy to help. So why not have a look and see what’s happening in your area?

Taking time for what’s important

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Over the years, I’ve come to realise that all aspects of my wellbeing are fully dependent on me.

This was a hard thing to accept, particularly when times were difficult, but it’s something that’s definitely helped me prioritise what’s important. And this is especially true when it comes to my physical and mental wellbeing.

Do what you love
Like many working mums, at times I’ve found it difficult to juggle family, kids, work, and some sort of social life. Add workouts and trying to stay physically fit on top of that and life can become pretty stressful.

I used to work in the fitness industry as a Personal Trainer, so I was constantly surrounded by exercise and the pressure to keep fit. After a while this began to take its toll and I realised I needed a change. Having studied psychology, I knew the importance of looking after my mental health, and decided it was time to do something about it.

I started prioritising the things I love more. Going for long walks with my family, playing tennis, and jogging. I’ve loved getting outside in the beautiful scenery around where I live and this has really helped my mental wellbeing.

I do still go to exercise classes, as I’ve found I get more out of these with the instructor encouraging me. But one of the most invaluable things through all of this has been the support of a friend to help motivate me. OK, it does help that my friend is a Personal Trainer, but she has been incredibly supportive and has helped spur me on.

Mind over matter
As well as the physical side, I’ve also started to look after my mental wellbeing a lot more. I’ve complimented strenuous exercise with meditation, which has been great for my mental health. Although I had my reservations at first, I’ve found that meditation has really helped me clear my mind and it can be a godsend when you feel like your life is moving at 100mph. I now try to take 5–10 minutes every day to practice mindfulness and really look after my mental health.

By doing things I enjoy, looking after my physical and mental wellbeing feels more natural, and it’s easier to keep up good habits. So with that in mind, I‘d like to leave you with one of my favourite quotes from Jim Rohn; “Stand guard at the door of your mind”.

If you’re looking for some sporting inspiration to find new hobbies you’ll love, check out the BBC Sport’s Get Inspired page.

What are you dreaming of?

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We’ve all been there – struggling to concentrate and feeling irritable after a lack of sleep. Sometimes you feel like you’re not fully functioning when you’re tired and all you can think of is getting home to your bed.

But how bad really is a lack of sleep?
The odd late night here and there is normal, it’s an almost unavoidable part of life. But it’s when we start to do this regularly that problems can arise. The NHS tells us that regular poor sleep can have even greater consequences than just feeling a bit sleepy or grumpy. Their website links a lack of zzz’s to obesity and heart disease.

So how do we get a good night’s sleep?
Health professionals stress that “a good night’s sleep is essential for a long and healthy life”. And the benefits of a good sleep include: boosting immunity, boosting mental wellbeing, and helping prevent health issues such as diabetes.

With all these perks, how do we go about ensuring we get a good night’s sleep?

1. Make your bedroom somewhere you want to sleep
Your bedroom should be a relaxing place. Ideally it should be dark, quiet and tidy – somewhere that you can unwind. Unfortunately this might mean you need to tidy your room, but the lack of distractions when trying to get some slumber can really help.

2. Have a bed time
It’s not just for kids! Going to bed when you feel tired and getting up at the same time every day can get your body into a routine, meaning you wake up feeling refreshed and ready to go!

3. Don’t just lie there
If you go to bed and find yourself unable to sleep after 20 minutes, get up and do something relaxing. Then go back to bed when you feel sleepier.

4. Put the phone down
It’s so tempting to lie in bed, scrolling through social media catching up on the latest news. But the stimulating light from your phone or TV can harm your sleeping pattern. The NHS recommend putting the tech away an hour before bed. You could replace your Twitter feed with a book or magazine as you try to wind down.

5. No late night coffee
The caffeine in your morning coffee is a great way to start the day, but it isn’t great for catching 40 winks. A warm milky drink or herbal tea are better options for a late night beverage to help you drift off.

As well as these tips, there are also a number of sleep apps that can help you get a good night’s rest. Check out the NHS website further details and links to their sleep apps.

Get on track with your running routine

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Runners, do you ever get the days where you just can’t face it? Do you suffer from a lack of motivation at certain times of the year?

For me, my motivational slump often comes in winter – it’s too dark, too cold and too rainy – the reasons for not getting out the door go on…

It’s all too easy to ignore my alarm, roll over and steal an extra hour of sleep, but my mental health suffers as a result of my lack of motivation. Lately I’ve been pretty determined to get my running mojo back on track and these simple steps are helping me along the way:

Set a simple, achievable goal
As I haven’t been running quite so regularly recently, my pace and distance have dwindled. So, I set myself a realistic goal of running for 15 minutes three times a week. It might not seem like much, but it’s an easy goal to get me started and doesn’t feel too big (which could put me off!). Just getting out of the door for those 15 minutes three times a week has eased me back into a regular routine with my running.

Get a new soundtrack
For the past year, I’ve listened to pretty much the same type of music on my runs. I recently changed to listening to podcasts or an audio book, which has been a game changer for me. I now find I’m getting so lost in the storyline of my book, the run is over before I know it! I always pick something I really enjoy and I’ve read before so I can just lose myself in my run with a book I love.

Fuel yourself properly
I find when I don’t run as often as I like, my eating habits start to suffer too. Eating healthy, non-processed foods fuel my running and help me to recover more quickly. Taking inspiration for new recipes by buying a cookbook, or browsing the internet for new ideas helps to get me back into my healthy habits.

Slow down and take in your surroundings
Sometimes, I like to run completely tech-free. No running watch and no headphones. Although I live in a fairly busy town, there is a lovely park right near my house where I go ‘tech-free’ – running at a slower pace and taking time to appreciate the beauty of my surroundings. I often return from these runs calmer and happier than when I plug in my headphones and ignore everything around me. These runs make me want to go out running again and I try and have one tech-free run a week to appreciate why I love running so much.

Keep track with a diary
Keeping a running diary naturally helps to motivate me – I like to look over my previous runs and see where I’ve made improvements or what factors affected my run. I also keep a tracker that measures my levels of motivation to run – amazingly, on some of the days where I had the least motivation, I’ve achieved a new distance, or a PB! The next time I feel reluctant to step out the door, I take a look back at my log and it reminds me of how far I’ve come and why I want to get out and run.

I’ve noticed that with these small changes, my motivation is creeping back and I’m falling into a regular, happy running routine.

The do’s to beat the January blues

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The excesses of the festive season may have taken their toll, and you might be feeling the need to implement a whole host of austerity measures to see you through to payday, but January doesn’t have to be gloomy!

Try our top tips to avoid the annual blues and ease your way comfortably into the New Year.

    • Don’t deny yourself a small treat. With money so tight in January, your regular trip to the local barista might seem like a luxury too far, but cutting it out altogether is likely to make you more miserable. Try exercising a little bit of self-discipline and indulging in that fave treat just once a week – maybe on a Friday so it feels like you’re another week closer to that first payday of 2019!
    • Plan ahead. Making plans for the rest of the year is one of the most effective ways to pull you through the seemingly dismal days of January. If you’ve got the budget, book a day trip out or a weekend away, or if you can’t commit to splash out right now, then book some time off work anyway. It will make you feel better knowing you have some dates in the diary – even if you change them later on!
    • Try some free fun. When money (and maybe your waistband) is too tight to mention why not venture outside and kill two birds with one stone? Parkrun organise free, 5km runs every week which are open to absolutely everyone and take place in your local community – you just need to register online first.
    • Look after yourself. It might sound simple, but being kind to yourself will lift your mood and make those dark winter nights fly by. Indulge in a home movie night rather than the cinema, or tuck up with a good read and a hot choc for a dose of immersive wellbeing.
    • Learn something new. The brand new year can provide just the right amount of encouragement to make you branch out and add some skills to your repertoire. If you’ve always fancied learning to play the ukulele, knit, bake or paint, now’s the time! You could even use the impetus to add a new level of expertise to your professional skillset. Head over to YouTube for every possible tutorial on everything – ever!

Paint January RED – One step at a time

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January. It’s a month full of dark mornings, bitterly cold weather, and the joy and warmth of Christmas feels long gone. It can be a particularly difficult month for many of us.

Research shows that exercise can have a positive impact on your mental health and RED January encourages participants to get active every day in January, in order to boost their mental wellbeing.

Last year, in a bid to combat my own struggles with the gloomiest month of the year, I took up the challenge of RED January (Run Every Day January), an initiative that’s run in partnership with the mental health charity Mind. Personally, January often brings out the worst in my anxiety and I really wanted to focus on taking part in something that actively challenges it.

Research shows that exercise can have a positive impact on your mental health and RED January encourages participants to get active every day in January, in order to boost their mental wellbeing.

Although it’s called Run Every Day January, it’s not just about running. The team behind RED January suggest a whole host of other activities including swimming, yoga, cycling, and walking to get you exercising every day. The possibilities are endless and it’s up to you how you want to complete your RED January.

I decided to take on the challenge of running every day. At the beginning of the month I was a little nervous – my anxiety often stops me doing things and going places, but I was determined not to let it hold me back.

Each day it got easier – not just physically – and I soon found I wanted to get out and go for my daily run. Some days it was only half a mile, but it was enough to get the endorphins going and to give my mood a much needed boost. By the end of the month I’d managed to clock up a total of 115 miles!

Once January was over, not only did I experience an amazing sense of physical achievement, but I had started to feel detachment from my anxiety. It was still there in the background, but the running had given me an outlet for all the extra adrenaline. Although I haven’t been able to sustain running every day, I now make sure that exercise plays a regular role in my life, as I find my anxiety is easier to manage when I make exercise a priority.

To find out more information about RED January, or to take part, click here.

Exercise: a miracle cure?

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We all know exercise is good for you, right? But do you know just how good?

It’s amazing what a little bit of exercise can do for your health. According to the NHS “it can reduce your risk of major illnesses, such as heart disease, stroke, type 2 diabetes, and cancer by up to 50%.”

But it’s not just your physical health that benefits from getting your body moving. Exercise is also great for your mental wellbeing too. A short burst of 10 minutes brisk walking increases your mental alertness, energy and positive mood, while regular physical activity can increase your self-esteem, and reduce stress and anxiety. The NHS goes even further, saying, “Exercise is the miracle cure we’ve always had.”

Get up!
With many of us working longer hours and taking fewer breaks, we’re not always as active as we could be. A lot of us spend the majority of our day sitting down; either at a desk, on transport, or in our leisure time. Research suggests that many adults spend more than seven hours a day sitting down, and it’s this lack of physical activity that can have an impact on our mental health. The Royal College of Psychiatrists state, “The mind can’t function unless your body is working properly.”

Get out and about
But don’t worry, there’s plenty we can do to get our recommended daily dose of exercise and help look after our mental health. You could take up a new sport or hobby, cycle to work instead of taking the train, or even just get off the bus a stop early and walk the rest of the way. Check out the BBC’s Get Inspired website for more ideas and practical guides on what you can do.

Get moving
The NHS recommends that adults aged 19 – 64 get at least 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity a week, or 75 minutes of vigorous aerobic activity. It might sound like a lot, but you only need to do a small amount each day to reach that goal. And you don’t have to run a marathon to hit your target either – 30 minutes brisk walking, five days a week counts as your 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity.

It’s important to make sure we look after our mental health, and exercise can help do just that. So, whether it’s a taking up a new sport, restarting an old hobby, or just taking a brisk walk to the shops, a little exercise can go a long way.